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My last post talked about my calling or “kaleo” in life being primarily focused on relationships. So… instead of creating a superfluous soliloquy about the way things should be, I decided to take a few days off from my blog and try it in real life.
The theory is MUCH simpler than the practice.
I’ve spent countless hours over the past decade… going to school, reading books, reading blogs, learning leadership principles, etc… and today, I realized that without real-life application, all those leadership theories are just that… theories.
So where did I go wrong?
First, I failed to create a palpable action plan.
After my last post I thought, “now I’ll say NO to stuff” and “spend more time with God and with my family.”
I understood the WHAT
I even got the WHY
But I failed to think about the HOW! Without the HOW… all I had was good motives.
I was banking on God seeing my heart and being pleased with my attitude. I was hopeful that my wife would sense that I loved her and everything would naturally progress. I expected my kids to appreciate my efforts and cherish our moments together.
It didn’t work…
Second, I failed to realize that ‘kaleo’ could also be known as ‘blood, sweat, and tears.’
I didn’t expect this journey to be easy, but I thought that kaleo sounded so cool! So fun! So challenging! I definitely believe that it is all those things, but I also think that it’s much more. It’s fear.. it’s risk… it’s joy… it’s peace… it’s suffering… all wrapped up into one.
When we pursue the kaleo that God has given us, we are on the narrow path! ”For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.”**
I know of very few narrow paths that are smooth and straight. They are windy, curvy, bumpy, and uncomfortable. As a mountain biker, it’s easy to bike on open dirt roads… but it’s not that exciting. The excitement happens when you’re in the backcountry… ducking trees and navigating hairpin turns… constantly on the verge of compelete and utter disaster!
That’s the kind of path that I want my relationships to be on!
Lastly, I failed to realize my own naiveté. Has that ever happened to anybody else? You think that you know something… but then as you get to know it better, you suddenly realize how little you knew about how much you didn’t know!
I have a friend named Grant Clark that interacts with a wide variety of people on a daily basis. One of my favorite quotes from him is… “where there’s people, there’s poop.”
Relationships are inherently messy!
If our relationships with other people are messy, why is it that we think our relationship with God is going to be spotless?!? God wants us, IN SPITE OF our mess! He literally knows EVERYTHING, but yet we constantly try to convince Him that we’re something that we’re not!
If you spend your time with God in the mindset that HE KNOWS EVERYTHING, your relationship will know no bounds! It will be free to develop and mature in complete sincerity and confidence.
And if you let that authenticity overflow into your natural relationships, the relational portion of your kaleo will be clarified and you will find the narrow path you’ve been looking for.
More to come… including palpable plans and attempts to conquer my greatest kaleo – relationships.